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How do others see you?

How  do others see you?

Do they see you as someone with vision or perhaps they think you are all smoke & mirrors?

What do the people you work with think about you? Do they see you as being a winner or loser? Are you bright and do you have a sunny disposition or perhaps you have little or no impact - your in the shade. Out of sight and out of mind?

  • Are you seen as a role model?
  • Do your superiors see you as weak or strong?
  • Do your reports see you as being nice or nasty?


Leader or a pushover

Are you content with your lot? Or do you want more?

If you want more, here's some ideas to help you so read on....

Nice or nasty?

Don’t be a pushover – cultivate assertiveness as a lifetime habit.

Assertiveness comes from self-confidence, “nasty” behaviour generally reflects insecurity, selfish and blinkered approach. 

You may need a better understanding of your preferred or default behaviours and learning how to recognise others’ preferred behaviours ... psychometric assessment can help with that. You can then maximise your strengths and how to use them most effectively i.e. assertiveness comes in many forms, not everyone is driven and forceful, many people can be effectively assertive in their expertise and not necessarily in the boardroom.

If you don’t make your case or stand up for yourself when dealing with others you are allowing them to compromise your executive presence, and you will rightly be seen as weak or non-assertive. Avoiding conflict will erode your self-respect and leave you feeling out of control and demoralised.

Endured for too long, non-assertiveness can fester and lead to frustration, ultimately causing you to explode into the opposite approach – aggressiveness, where you fail to respect the rights and feelings of others.

Some people are naturally aggressive, giving commands, making demands and imposing their views on others. Aggressiveness in the workplace is counterproductive and damages the company’s reputation.

Developing your executive presence is ‘brand you’, and is critical to your success in a fiercely competitive corporate world.

To excel, you need to be seen as a role model and “A” player.

Image can sometimes be more important than performance, and can give you an unfair advantage.

People who are seen positively are often given greater airtime, more weight is given to what they say and they are more likely to be included. They’re more likely to earn the promotion, win the contract or get the pay rise.

And this applies not just to one event, but to your entire career, the doors which open, the fast track environment, promotion on promotion and the financial reward to go with it.

And it doesn’t stop even when you get to the top. There’s always another challenge, another achievement…

Anyone over the age of 40 must, without exception, seek opportunities for constructive change. Otherwise you will become outdated in your manner, approach and standing. Rather than pass your sell by date, you need to sharpen the saw or re-invent yourself says Robert Tearle.

Point of view approach.

There will be times when you may need to confront someone or an issue. Failing to do so at critical times could expose you as being weak).

In difficult situations it can help to explain your point of view with a full, frank and honest disclosure about how you are feeling.

You can be quite forthright with employees when you’re developing a major point, but maintain respect when dealing with co-workers, peers and your superiors. When confronting people, you will invariably need to have your ducks lined up and in order.

Prepare your position well and collect any evidence before the meeting or discussion, and used with diplomacy and respect where necessary, this can work well with subordinates, peers and superiors when you are unhappy with a situation.

“I have a point of view”….

Why it is important to listen to my point of view?

What the options are for rescuing the situation

Ask them for their observations and conclusions. It is particularly important when dealing with people who report in to you, that they come up with the conclusions.

Find out more in our white paper:

Developing your executive presence

Which you can access in our white papers section or by clicking here:

Executive Presence



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